Thursday 11 December 2014

9 Awkward Things Not To Say On A First Date

Listen up kids! Am here to save you from awkward silences and even more awkward conversations on first dates. I've compiled the ultimate list of conversation topics to avoid when you take that cutie from the apartment next door out for drinks. Men and women should heed these warnings equally (except number 2. Ladies, that one's for you) and strive to improve your first date game.
1. Past exes. Let's not go down Depressing Failed Relationships Road, shall we?
2. Anything to do with your menstrual cycle. No one needs to know how much you're cramping right now. Even fellow girls don't need to hear it all the time.
3. The attractiveness of her mother. We don't care if you're trying to gauge how we are going to age; it's never a good idea to comment on our moms.
4. Weird places you've had sex. Whether it was on the beach, on a Ferris wheel, on the International Space Station, we don't want to hear it. We might want to get freaky with you one day, but not on the first date. This applies to men and women! Keep it together, kids.
5. How much you can drink. Rare is the person who is impressed by their date being able to drink them under the table. It'll just make you look questionable.
6. Asking if he or she would be up for a threesome. Great way to get walked out on, is all I'm saying.
7. Planning a future together. You haven't even had your appetizer; slow down and try not to freak your date out by asking where you see you two and your four kids living in ten years.
8. Politics. This can be a powder keg for some people. You might be a steadfast liberal while he or she is a confirmed conservative. You can find a way to make that work down the line, but on the first date, a passionate topic like that can send them running into the night. Also included under this umbrella is abortion. It is a tender subject for some people, so use good judgment and steer clear.
9. Racist/Sexist/Demeaning jokes. No. Just, no.
Remember, it's not that hard to have a successful first date. Just be your funny, kind awesome self, and all will be well.

GOOD THINGS


THE HUNCHBACK MAN


"THE EVIL YOU DO REMAINS WITH YOU THE GOOD YOU DO COMES BACK TO YOU"

[Wonderful story….with POWERFUL LESSON]

A woman baked chapatti (roti) for members of her family and an extra one for a hungry passerby. She kept the extra chapatti on the window sill, for whosoever would take it away. Every day, a hunchback came and took away the chapatti. Instead of expressing gratitude, he muttered the following words as he went his way: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” This went on, day after day. Every day, the hunchback came, picked up the chapatti and uttered the words:
“The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” The woman felt irritated. “Not a word of gratitude,” she said to herself… “Everyday this hunchback utters this jingle! What does he mean?” One day, exasperated, she decided to do away with him. “I shall get rid of this hunchback,” she said. And what did she do? She added poison to the chapatti she prepared for him!

As she was about to keep it on the window sill, her hands trembled. “What is this I am doing?” she said. Immediately, she threw the chapatti into the fire, prepared another one and kept it on the window sill. As usual, the hunchback came, picked up the chapatti and muttered the words: “The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!”

The hunchback proceeded on his way, blissfully unaware of the war raging in the mind of the woman. Every day, as the woman placed the chapatti on the window sill, she offered a prayer for her son who had gone to a distant place to seek his fortune. For many months, she had no news of him.. She prayed for his safe return.

That evening, there was a knock on the door. As she opened it, she was surprised to find her son standing in the doorway. He had grown thin and lean. His garments were tattered and torn. He was hungry, starved and weak. As he saw his mother, he said, “Mom, it’s a miracle I’m here. While I was but a mile away, I was so famished that I collapsed. I would have died, but just then an old hunchback passed by. I begged of him for a morsel of food, and he was kind enough to give me a whole chapatti. As he gave it to me, he said, “This is what I eat everyday: today, I shall give it to you, for your need is greater than mine!”

” As the mother heard those words, her face turned pale. She leaned against the door for support. She remembered the poisoned chapatti that she had made that morning. Had she not burnt it in the fire, it would have been eaten by her own son, and he would have lost his life!

It was then that she realized the significance of the words: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” Do good and Don’t ever stop doing good, even if it is not appreciated at that time. If you like this, share it with others and I bet so many lives would be touched. 

Meditate.

LADIES BEWARE


LADIES LADIES you go scattering your legs wide for a married man you must know this.

1. The only thing he wants is sex he comes and goes back home to his wife.
2. He is never going to leave his wife for you.
3. You are most likely not the only one.
4. After using you he will move onto someone else. 
5. He doesn't owe you anything.
6. Getting pregnant on purpose won't trap him,his kids are at home with his wife. 
7. His money and property is for him and his family.You are only the small change 
8. You will never be part of his future.

FOR THE LADIES


1. When you are busy bragging about dating a banker, doctor engineer,business man and so on girls your age are busy enrolling at universities to become those professions.

2. When you are busy bragging that you are driving your boyfriends car ,girls your age are busy looking for the best dealer in town to buy a car with their own money.
3. When you are busy bragging about the corner office of your boyfriend,girls of your age are busy developinf business plans to start their own business.
4. When you are busy sitting queenly expecting your boyfriends to do all of you. Girls of your age are busy working and doing all for themselves.

Your boyfriends money is never your own, sucess is not sexually transmitted nor is wisdom and qualifications. The dependence on a boyfriend is the beginning of your down grade disrespect taken advantage of deemed matrialistic/demanding and so on so dear ladies stand up and have your own things and a guy will never look down on you. But respect your achievements.

FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE


'Unless the Lord builds the house, they labour in vain who build it.' Psalm 127:1 NKJV



#Santons, It’s easy to remember where and when you got married, but sometimes what escapes you is why. God created Eve because unlike the rest of His creation Adam had no mate; he was incomplete.

So if one of the purposes of marriage is closeness, the enemy of marriage
is distance. But problems arise when you expect your spouse to meet every need you’ve got. Only God can do that!
A man asked his friend, ‘How come you never got married?’ He replied, ‘Because I was looking for the ideal
woman.’ ‘And you never found her?’ his friend asked. ‘Yes, of course, but just my luck—she was looking for the ideal man.’ Hello!

The Bible says, ‘Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.’ (Ephesians 5:25 NKJV)

Can a marriage ever be perfect? No, but when two people make up their minds to give themselves fully to one another, they can come pretty
close.

In a survey of thousands of married couples, here are ten reasons why people said they were unhappy:

(1) They didn’t think alike in many areas.
(2) They had little insight into each other’s feelings.
(3) They said hurtful things to one other.
(4) They felt unloved.
(5) They felt taken for granted.
(6) They lacked someone to confide in.
(7) Each spouse felt he or she was giving more than the other.
(8) They rarely complimented each other.
(9) They desired more affection.
(10) They couldn’t talk to each other.

Since God performed the first marriage, talking to Him about yours would be a good place to start.

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SoulFood: Gen 30:25-31:55, Jn 15:18-27, Ps 65, Prov 31:25-27