Someone asked me this question and I hope I'll be able to handle it klassikally.
"Do men feel like champions when they impregnant a gal and run away?"
Sometimes yes...sometimes it isnt their fault.
Lemme begin from this point...is it true that if a woman wants you, she'll do all it takes to have you by her side? It is also true that both men and women marry for different reasons. That could be love, wealth, desperation, ritual, etc.
If the reason they want to marry you is love, they'll give up upon rejection. If the reason is wealth or ritual, she'll scheme. Part of her scheme would be using juju, pregnancy and ultimately use blackmail.
Now for a man who is loved, he is safe...for that man who is being hunt for his wealth or rituals...kuna balaa (there is trouble). Why? The tool to be used will be pregnancy or juju... One will ask, but the man has a role to play in making the woman pregnant?!!? Yes he does. It is also true that only the woman knows her safe and unsafe days. It is also true that a woman rarely keeps a child of man she never wanted. This is maybe to avoid future complications...
So a scheming woman will do all it takes to have this man's child. At whatever cost. When this happens, the lady will demand that the dude takes full responsibility...
She will go extra miles of even involving family, friends and even authority. In political science that is mobilising. She is just being a politician if not a macenary! πππ
Remember the guy was just having a thing with her and she knew it. But she was determined for whatever reason to own this man. Put yourself in this dude's shoes. Isn't it heavy?
Human beings react differently to situations. That is why we have heroes and cowards. So I wouldn't judge someone for accepting or rejecting forced responsibility. Why? Accepting would either make you a hero or a coward, depending with how you look at it. So is rejecting.
The question is...what is his intention? Teach her a lesson or cushion her from responsibility or protect her from emmbarrassment? Whatever the reason it is still valid. We are emotional beings. The most important part is how you handle it.
Your partner may not react to your good news in the same way as your girlfriends. Your girlfriends jumped for joy when you told them your good news, so why did your partner barely look up from the newspaper? Men don't always react to pregnancy the way women do. While many are over-the-moon excited, particularly if the pregnancy is planned and happily anticipated, others are flooded with worries. The best way to help your partner feel more comfortable about your pregnancy is to understand that men and women often look at pregnancy differently. Don't criticize him if he doesn't react the way you think he should. Give him space to experience the pregnancy in his own way. There are often legitimate reasons for men's reactions; for example, consider the following:
This is on the flipside.....
First, Men can't experience the pregnancy the way you do. Sure, the man contributes half of the conception equation, but after supplying the sperm, the man's body is no longer part of the pregnancy. Both physically and emotionally you will feel more, from morning sickness and labour pains to first kicks and hiccups. Because of this, your partner may feel less attached to the pregnancy than you do, especially before you start to show. He may also feel left out because everyone is paying attention to you.
Secondly, Men worry, even if they don't tell you. Even if your partner doesn't mention it, he may be worrying about what pregnancy will do to your lives. He may feel anxious about upcoming expenses, your health insurance coverage, the pain that you'll feel during pregnancy or delivery, what life will be like with three rather than two, and the effects of pregnancy on your sex life. If you are planning to quit your job to stay home with your baby, he may feel more pressure because he'll be the sole breadwinner.
Lastly, Men question what type of dad they'll be. For some men, fatherhood is something they have looked forward to for years and feel well equipped to handle. Others may feel apprehensive. If a man was abused, abandoned, bullied, or ignored by his father, he may wonder whether he can be a good father to his child. He may fear that he will make the same mistakes his father made. Talk with him about his worries. Reassure him that you will work together to solve problems and that he'll most likely be an excellent father, even if his own father wasn't.
Mhhh. So If you find that pregnancy brings up issues that are too difficult for the two of you to handle on your own, talk with a social worker, marital counselor, or therapist. It's best to tackle these issues now, because after your baby is born, you?ll have less time and energy to focus on each other.
To the men that for some reason you were not comfortable about the pregnancy.....and chose to run away......go hold that baby in your arms. If you feel nothing at all, walk away. If you do, help that kid. Forget about set up...blackmail etc.
To the ladies..if deep down you know the relationship was not based on love but you still went ahead to bear his child, accept the reaction and move on. Being single does not make you less of a human being.
To all of us... dont we think children are a blessing? Aren't they cute especially if they have your face. (Wanaojipenda kama mimi).
To future parents, only the word of God can guide your ways to not fall into such a quagmire. Lets value and respect family.
Yours truly,
DON SANTO
The DON of dons
The Klassik Man
Samsung Addict
#iAmKlassik